It means moving on from this MR. My brother and his W were had a very dysfunctional MR. They separated moving to different states. She had a boyfriend and he had several women. My brother was definitely the WH in this situation. 1.5 years later they got back together. And they are so much better this time around. So I told myself after BD if these two of all people can make it work. Then we can definitely work on this MR.
Which is why I am hesitant to ask W abiut the divorce papers. Because she maybe having second thoughts. Not to mention that would lead to R talks. But I hate being in limbo. Separationcan mean different things to people. For me it's sitting here working on myself avoiding temptation. For W it could be dating and sleeping with anyone she wants. Seeing if someone better is out there for her. And if not, then plan B it is. So I wonder if this some kind of break period should I be trying to see if there is someone better for myself? Is W my possible plan B, even though she isn't really W material at this moment? So there is still a lot to think about. But I do know is that I hate waiting and being unproductive. I want tobse this time to know more about myself in all aspects.
So the only thing you see that would be fundamentally DIFFERENT between throwing in the towel vs. not is dating someone else? Is that what you mean by "productive"?
