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[bhappy2]

I really just do not understand why if a WAS wants to D they just don't file, what are they waiting for?

I asked her last night why she hasnt filed and she said that if I keep asking her she will, I said do what you need to do. BTW I have only asked her twice in the last 2 weeks.

I am starting to not care about her, not every thought is about her anymore.

W has been cooking great meals and cleaning and doing all the stuff that has been neglected since BD. She is actually being very friendly to me, not sure why.

Can anyone help with the following questions:

W doesnt want anyone to know what is happening, why would she want this to be a secret? I asked her why she didnt discuss this with her closest sister and she said that she didnt want anyone to influence her decision.

W acts like we are the perfect family to our children and still wants to do family things.

There are days she acts like nothing is wrong then days she just will act so nasty towards me I just do not get it.

I have completely worked on myself and changed all the behaviors she mentioned that bothered her. She has said several times that she just doesnt love me anymore. I validate and move on, I never get angry or excited. It seems to me like she justs wants to be free to do what she wants.

She does not want to move out and does not want me to move out. I am just trying to understand what is it that she wants.

Just to recap I can find no evidence of an A other than this group of 20 year olds keep asking her to hang out. Our children are also questioning her about what is going on and she keeps saying that me and her are still talking it out. I said to her that its completely inappropriate to hang out with them and she said that is why she wants a D, to do what she wants. She hung out with them once in 5 months, and told me where she was going and with who. I do not necassarily believe her though.