Thanks Ginger. He feels that only PA and sex outside marriage is bad but any other behaviour acceptable.
Of course that's what he says. YOUR flaws are glaring. His, not so much. He's "just human"...
He has a malignant sense of entitlement. That includes an angry mean side, which you are well familiar with.
Yesterday he called and we talked. He sounded very formal and I did too.
good! When I read your notes from HIS critique of you I shook my head.
What was his goal? Making you miss that??
If you wanted to be belittled, harassed & condescended to, you could have stayed with him.
When you begin to miss him (holidays are coming), read that "love letter" to remind yourself of what an energetic critic he was.
Steel yourself. You remind me of where/when I wish I had awakened and left.
Too many years of me spackling over what I saw or should have seen, b/c I wanted to validate my choice to stay.
And I was afraid. Him forcing my hand is actually a good thing.
Stay strong.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
