Rebuilding my life (ILYBNILWY? IDGAF)

[25yearsmlc]

[quote=EastTN]I reflexively check the time. XW says, "F--- YOU!" In front of D.

Hey East, sorry XW is being difficult. That's shameful what she said, and in front of your D too!

I just don't get the rage. I'd love to have someone explain to me how the WAS (at this point an X) can have such rage against the LBS. Is it displaced guilt?


I used to think this^^^ was the case.

But there are disordered people out there. Personality disorders and people who did what they did and justified it all.

So It's NOT always "their shame lashing out."

See, when we assume guilt/shame on their end, that's us projecting how WE would feel if we had inflicted pain on the people who loved us the most.

But the WAS does not share our values - they do not feel what we would feel, they are not invested in the family and m like we are.

If they were, we would not be here.