Fighting my way out of the dark Part 5

[Holding]

Is she trying to get a reaction from them, too?

Yes, but it's usually to comply with her will:
- It's time to leave and the kids aren't ready? COMMENCE RAGE!
- She's planned this event for the kids and one of them doesn't want to go? COMMENCE RAGE!
- She's having a hard day and the kids are misbehaving: COMMENCE RAGE!

Granted, this doesn't happen every week, but probably once a month. I've always gotten it a lot more from her than they do.

She doesn't get physical with the kids. She did with me once, about 7 years ago. I should have been more proactive back then.

I think rage and physical violence are the R languages she learned as a child. One time after BD she told me she'd wished I'd hit her instead of becoming emotionally distant, because at least she knew how to hit back.

On second thought, you may have to take the boys with you when you leave the house.

Oh god, that would bring on WWIII from her if I did that. If it does get that bad, I'll do it though.

Have you ever considered recording her whenever she goes into these rages? I mean, if there's a chance she could become physical with the kids.........or with you.......then you'd have something to show how she acts when she's angry, if needed.

Yes! My VAR is on the way. I wish I'd recorded that time she was beating on the MBR door.