Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

[25yearsmlc]

Tate,

I'm as pro m as they come. But turn this marriage over, it's done.

IF IF IF IF

there is a chance for an actual marriage, (a reconciliation in which SHE wakes up and gets it & you guys build a new r) it's NOT by letting your wife eat cake that you bake and clean up after.

Good grief, this^^^ is not a marriage. So you cannot save it.

I am not saying there is no hope for a second shot down the road, but what you have at the moment is not a marriage.

It's having a rude roomate with run of the house, who engages in mean spirited resentment filled destructive behavior in front of your kids - who wants to annex territory in the home, regardless of whether you are in it.

I'm not crazy about the "living room/go to bed early" loop you guys are in. But that's a sideshow that distracts from the underlying problem.

As for "this not being the 2nd round of DBing", I guess that's b/c it's the 2 year destruction of a marriage.


I'm so sorry but really, truly, the marriage already ended. Your wife will not second guess her choice by you staying in this situation.

You are holding onto the cliff with your fingers - a cliff your w pushed over,

and you think if you somehow hold on a little tighter, and squirm less, THEN she's going to see what a great catch you are b/c you put up with being treated like dirt, for a long time...

but that's not how it works my friend. I'm so sorry.

If loyalty and devotion in the face of betrayal were the solutions, many of us would not be here.

You must extricate yourself from this ordeal, for yourself and the only life you get, and for your children.

Otherwise you are creating a generational legacy of maltreatment, unhappy marriages that your children may pass on to theirs.

Stop the cycle now.