That is what I am learning coming up on year one of BD. I am definitely a family, which is why I feel even more alone at times. I canbdo without a bunch of people in my life, but my family is everything. Because I base all of my decisions in how it affects my family.
And like you I just know that my old W is in there somewhere just afraid to come on out. But I can't restart a MR with this new version of her. There is nothing abiut this person I would want for a girlfriend let alone a W. Which is why I am seriously just wanting to walk away. By the way whatever happened to your W?