Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

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Couple clarifications for both sandi2 and 25yearsmic and summary to date..this is still the first round of DB, so to speak. My W wanted a D due to PA with OM. That fell apart and I did tons of 180s, and my W decided not to D. She declared she will stay as a partner in raising kids only.

Things seemed to be improving until the recent event of my W accidentally sending me a text meant for my BIL. W freaked out and told my BIL what happened. I thought my W had ended her EA with my BIL. I figured it was time to tell my sister about the EA. After W found out, she told me she was filing for D. My W did not file, and has been very angry since...likely she feels trapped. In recent argument, W declared she will not leave me because she does not want to split time with the kids.

So, her strong anger is a relatively new emotion. Yes, she is verbally abusive, but she saves this mostly for after kids are asleep.

I have consulted a lawyer in the past and was told that if I leave the house, it is a form of abandonment and could cause me to lose shared custody should things take a turn.

Right now, it seems like me GAL by going out, away from the house along with being polite, detached, and scarce around the house might be my best course of action...thoughts?