Do you have a sense of time running out, and surely there is some way to break through to her in time to save the M? Well, that's normal.
No...in it for the long haul for lack of a better term
Originally Posted By: sandi2
I want to encourage you to be more consistent when interacting with your W, or else, you will appear to be the crazy one.
Yes, I can sense my inconsistency.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Yes, reading self help books can aide our self improvement goals, but it doesn't necessarily mean something you read in a book last night about some other situation is going to work to change your WW's viewpoint today. Does that make senseIt might cause you to look as if you are bouncing all over the place, b\c you are grabbing & snatching bits from several sources and trying it out on her.
Makes perfect sense. I think I'm finally realizing that working on me is most important and to stop worrying about the perfect thing to say in a given situation.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
For now, maybe you should stick to DB.
Yes, back to my 180's and correcting the behaviors that W has pointed out.
Yesterday I had to stop by the house to assemble something and W had offered family dinner...the first time that she has offered without me asking first. I finally stopped asking because she always declined the offer. Exchanged pleasantries and W said "you're distant" I don't know how to respond to that so I just said "I'm not trying to be". One thing that W complained about was that I hover over her which was true. So she started watching TV while I changed and did a couple things around the house. She fell asleep so I paused the TV and dimmed the lights. I then went outside on the patio to study for a certification, again, trying not to hover. I finished studying and went inside to take a break and W was awake in the kitchen.
W: What's wrong? You're acting strange Me: Nothing...I was studying for my test (again, trying not to hover) W: I'll be back(she was on her way out to the store)
She returned from the store and I helped in the kitchen whilst she cooked dinner. The rest of the evening was actually nice we sat outside on the patio in front of the fire pit and talked about various things. No MR talk and no pursuing/pressure from me.
