I don't have much to offer on this beyond one small(ish) thing. After bomb-day and even before I found this place I set out some "ground rules / boundaries" with my wife.
One key one was that her guy was not to even set foot on our property. You may want to set similar rules out where you want nothing of her guy including his picture in the house. You can honestly say that it causes you pain. Hopefully she will be understanding.
Too bad you aren't able to swing by my house for Halloween. I've got candy plus rum for the adults - might be a bit of a drive. I'm working from home today as usual on Halloween and am already dressed up in my pirate outfit like I've done for nearly 10 years. I'm going to haul the sloop out at lunch time and decorate it up. No sails up this year because it's supposed to be breezy. Fingers crossed for good weather. Rain and possibly snow is in the forecast for this evening but not too much.
You've been doing an amazing job Gordie. As tough as it is to put one foot in front of the other some days, keep at it. When it gets too tough, know what the prize is. Healthy, well adjusted kids and the ability to look at yourself in the mirror.
If you can figure out how to take a break - perhaps a weekend away of your own - now might be a good time. One thing I used to do back in the day was to alternate between the two different kids to go Christmas shopping in the "city".
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
