Gordie: MLC W with a BF...negotiating our D #12

[Irish M]

Hey Gordie. Hang in there. You are doing a great job so far. Its a tough job but it is yours and you will love it. That job is being the best dad you can be. Let W go. She is lost anyway and is unable to be a good mother at this point. Your kids are young. Disney only mom will fade.

Like Hawho and you discussed. Her telling he kids with no empathy is part of it.

H: And the way she just told the kids she didn't want to be married and walked out? That's the busted empathy chip you see in depression.

G: I was surprised by that but she treated it like no big deal to her. Why would it be a big deal to the kids? No emotion.

The empathy, caring, loving person you once knew is not there. That part of her brain is shut off. Depression is a dark place.

All I can say is be the best dad. Nothing wrong with Disney/Discipline dad. The kids will respect it. Sit with them. Let them talk. Don't bad mouth mom. Be there for them. Hug them and love them. Take them out more and call it Daddy time. In time they will ask for Daddy time.

Halloween. Plan it with your kids. If W shows up then OK. If she doesn't well still make it about the kids night. Traditions change.

It's all about the kids my friend. you will feel so great about yourself doing whats best for them.

I found it tough as well in the beggining. We do an annual camping trip since the girls were born. Same camp ground, same site. XW bailed in June 2015. Camping was July. We still went without her. Yes it was tough and I wanted to not go. Thinking I would be miserable. Well me and the girls stuck it out and did it. We have now done this for that past 3 summers. Us 3. and its awesome.

happy Halloween to you and your kids.

I know you got this.