Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

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But DBing is first and foremost, about doing what works.

(Not to nag, but have you actually read the DB book?)

Anyhow, what you are doing is NOT working. You gotta Do something different.

Last but not least,

I don't say this often, but in this circumstance, I'm very concerned your kids are not better off in this "intact" family. The dynamic is abusive. Seriously.

If a man said to his wife, what your w says to you


"get out of the living room/I hate you/I love the kids more than I hate you-you're lucky"


there'd be no hesitation saying it's verbal/emotional abuse. And in front of the kids?

Bad news. You have to change how you interact, asap.[/color]

In my situation, I have not found anything that works for long. The only thing that seemed to make things better was me absolutely killing myself trying to do all the chores plus everything I normally do and going to every single thing my W and kids went to out of town. This got me through the initial threat of divorce.

Yes, I read the book, but that was 1.5 years ago now. I also worked through the marriage bootcamp program another marriage coach offers. This program was, to me, more geared toward a couple where both people want to improve their relationship. The benefit to me was it kept me in a friendly frame of mind for my W.