sometimes the limbo term is misleading. We are in a doorway of undesirable places so It's not as if the choice is between a working marriage or a crap divorce.
It's as AS says, one pile of poop or the other. Both choices seem untenable.
Except for one thing. The end of a m that is no longer working for you, is not going to lead you to the other side of this, and into peace. The other choice may well get you to a place of peace...and maybe more...
I saw my Godsent T the other day.
When I discussed holding onto the concept of my m, the desire to reach h, to get him to care enough about his family...(even now, I want to know he gives a damn!)
My T asked me about my friend who had a lung transplant. - Obviously my friend has new lungs.
My T asked me what my friend did "with the old lungs." I guessed that they were studied and then discarded...she asked me why my friend did not want her old lungs instead of the new ones.
ME: "because the old lungs did not work for her anymore..."
this^^ analogy helped me.
((( hugs )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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