I think you know this, Sara... people w/ issues don't change until they hit rock bottom. Your H isn't going to hit rock bottom w/ you during an in-house-separation.

But you're right. Life is making you choose between two big piles of poop.

Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final