Hi Ray. Wow, you must be exhausted. When I read your threads, I get the impression you are reading a lot of various sources and trying to get as much help as possible. That can be good....and it can also cause a bit of inconsistency in your actions. As with a lot of newcomers, you appear to be wanting something that has a lot of power behind the punch...so to speak. Do you have a sense of time running out, and surely there is some way to break through to her in time to save the M? Well, that's normal.
I want to encourage you to be more consistent when interacting with your W, or else, you will appear to be the crazy one. Yes, reading self help books can aide our self improvement goals, but it doesn't necessarily mean something you read in a book last night about some other situation is going to work to change your WW's viewpoint today. Does that make sense? It might cause you to look as if you are bouncing all over the place, b\c you are grabbing & snatching bits from several sources and trying it out on her.
You have received excellent advice, and I hope you can sort of level out emotionally where you aren't feeling pressured to spring some new idea you gathered from another book, forum, etc. I don't want to sound as if I'm knocking whatever you've read, but from what I have observed, it tends to have a washing machine over-load effect on newcomers. They get so confused they don't know what to believe....and start shutting down. For now, maybe you should stick to DB.
((Hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
