Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

[Rose888]

The expected cost is not being with the kids on the days of the trip, and possibly paying money if a caregiver needs to be hired.

You say you are worried abo the kids and feel they lose out when your W doesn't spend her allotted time with them. But then you charge her extra days. So the kids lose one day with their mom because of her choice and then another day with her because of your choice.

So your own actions increase the harm to the kids that you are angry with your wife for inflicting.

I get it. She's not being a very good mom right now, and it hurts that your kids are hurting. But you can't make her be a good mom.

And I think your anger is making it hard to tell what's legitimately bad behavior (no-shows) and what is typical for even good parents (being away from kids because of work conferences).