Fighting my way out of the dark Part 5

[sandi2]

I want to make sure I have this right. You are both living under the same roof. You have divided monthly expenses? Why is she mailing off the CC payments, if they affect your credit score?

She blamed me again for preventing her from moving out. I showed her where the door was and invited her to leave. She then asked why I wasn't the one to move out. I said since she wanted this D, she should be the one to leave. She said I was as much to blame for the death of the M as she was. I told her I had issues and things to account for, but they were not 50%. She got really mad that I refused to accept 50% and wanted to know how I could say that. I told her I wasn't going to help her beat the dead horse of the M any more

This has been talked to death, has it not? And, if this was said in the presence of S10, then shame of both adults. There is absolutely nothing positive that comes from this topic, so stop it......stop explaining to her......stop trying to convince or persuade her that you are right.......just stop.

She said she wouldn't, she wanted to know how I could possibly claim I didn't own 50% of the issues. So I went in my room and locked the door. I could hear her yell from the other room "So you're just going to run off and not talk to me, like you did for our whole M."

So, whenever a bully picks on S10, he will know to run hide in his room? Look, this action does nothing, and she stands outside screaming at you.

My next hurdle is Halloween itself. STBXW had agreed to give me separate time to trick or treat with S10 by myself (I really don't feel comfortable going with her extended family), so let's see if she still honors that. And then the next day she's having a knee operation that will leave her laid up in bed for a few days. MIL will be in the house to help care for her - she never asked me, not that I'm sure what kind of help I could be in this environment. I have nothing against her family, but I'm not sure what she's been telling them about me, and MIL might try to accuse me of something.

Don't assume anything about your in-laws. Be relaxed, polite, and Fonzie cool.