Holding,

I am confused. Let's say you feel like you are 25% to blame for the dead marriage and she is 75% to blame for the dead marriage.

Let's say she sees it as 75% you and 25% her.

What does it change? Either way aren't you still getting divorced? Why argue over something that is irrelevant at this point?

Why don't you be the bigger person and just agree you were both equally responsible for the falling apart of the marriage?