Sorry I thought I did answer the questions, which were they?

D21 would watch S11 at our house.

How would I feel if she found someone else, I'm guessing it would have to be someone we both approve of i.e. Neighbor, etc

Yes, one big happy family has run it's course

Am I punishing and controlling - I guess

Did I miss anything?

What's my next step?

M:50
W:53
MR:20
D:21
S:17
S:11
BD-Sept 2015
Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015
Actually EA
In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016
W moved out:May 22 2016
OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017