**** It's fast from BD to S/D but my counselor says that she has been most likely contemplated this for 3-5 years.
I don't think we'll not have an amicable relationship when it comes to the kids, but I don't envision a friendship or any sort of relationship where I need trust and reliability.
**** You may feel different about this in the future.
I guess as I type all of this out, none of the options seem the best. I just keep coming back to what's best for the kids and I feel that this reality right now is not. I am weighing my unhappiness for their stability and if I had to endure that for a while so that life was better for them, I would've done it.
********** Just because you are willing to sacrifice your unhappiness for your kids doesn't mean she should.
I dunno. I feel like the kids are getting $crewed in this situation and if there was a better option that would've taken their life and happiness and the first priority. The S was about W and her wants and she put everyone else on the chopping block.
******* I'll bet you her version is that she sacrificed her wants and needs for you and the kids for x amount of years and now is her turn to live her life the on her terms.
I am not saying that she is right, I am just saying that you have to let her go. Your kids and your life is not over! There are many chapters that remain to be written.
