I'm no expert, but it appears that your w feels very safe w/you. You've made your home a safe haven for her. I do think she's having more and more moments of clarity. Reconnection begins usually w/the children, pets, etc. and the spouse is the last one. She's still has a ways to go, so...I would suggest that you keep the door ajar and continue as you have been. Time will tell if this is a true reconnection in progress or not.
I think you've been doing a great job of being a "safe haven" for her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
