Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

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She didn't ask, just walks into the room and starts demanding? Wow!
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Look, you clearly don't understand how boundaries work. Why would you draw a line about her demanding you get out of the living room....only to listen at her yelling at you? IMHO, the yelling was as bad of an offense as kicking you out of the living room.

So, what did you finally do? Let me guess, you left the living room after she yelled enough.

First, let me say thank you, sandi2 for chiming in. I really do value your advice.

To clarify, yes, my wife literally came in the room and said, "I need you to go to the bedroom so I can get some sleep." This is where I firmly told her I was relaxing in the living room. She started on her usual I am not getting any sleep and only a horrible person would keep me from getting sleep routine. On a previous occasion, I refused and offered that she can sleep in our bedroom anytime she wants. This time, I suggested that she try to get on a more balanced sleep schedule so she doesnt need to go to bed at 9 pm because she stayed up until 2 am the night before.

The yelling was the next night. My W was monopolizing the kids time all day by interrupting activities the kids and I were doing together after she kept telling me she had work to do. That afternoon, I planned on stepping out to exercise, and my W was going to run some errands with the kids. She ended up coming back with the kids 2 hours later than we had planned. This cut my evening plans with the kids down from 2.5 hours to just 0.5 hours, and the kids still had to get ready for bed in that time.

I told her that I value the time the kids and I have on the weekends since we do not have as much time to do things together during the week. (W works at the kids school and sees them from 3 pm on, whereas I usually get home at 6 pm from work). I requested that my W have the kids available when we plan. My W started carrying on about how she was out doing chores with the kids that needed to be done, that she is a working mom going to grad school, that all her friends are amazed that she is pulling all of this off and keeping up with everything, etc.

I told my W it is great that she is doing all of those things, but she still needs to consider my time with the kids as important. She carried on the rest of the evening, randomly telling me things that she hates about me. She even came in the bedroom after I went to bed to chew me out more about how I need to stop judging her, giving her advice (reference to the balanced sleep thing), and not interact with her. I told her she is free to leave me anytime she wants and that I will not stop her. Her response to that was "I am not going anywhere. Youre lucky I love the kids more than I hate you." ...and something along the lines that the only reason she wont leave me is because she does not want to only see the kids half the time.