Yes, that text was absolutely to get a reaction from you. If you don't play the game, they don't get to win. Good on you for not responding to it.
I totally get the distance piece you're talking about. It's okay to have an emotional day - this board knows how many i've had since BD and trying to come to grips with DB and focusing on myself.
You will grow further apart and that's okay. It's part of the process. I can honestly I don't even know who my W is now, and I am only five months post BD. The person you knew and were married to no longer exists in the larger scheme of their character.
To give you my perspective - I have completely stopped thinking about recon. If W makes serious moves and her actions, attitude, and words are aligned, I will then think about it. I think you're moving to a place where you're going to be comfortable and fine with your life without her and who you are. That place is not bad at all, infact it is very empowering.
Hang in tight! Don't worry about recon and don't play your W's game. You have everything to gain and she has everything to lose because Chris version 2.0 is someone only a fool would lose.
Think of your victories. What positives have you gained for yourself in the last few months. I just realized I lost a few pounds and I am setting up my new place for myself and my kiddos. And it is already bangin'.
Keep it up Chris! You're doing well and you've done awesome with NC and keeping it together. It's okay to have a down day or days. We all do.
