Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

[sandi2]

I responded that way because she was demanding that I leave the room so she could sleep in our living room.

She didn't ask, just walks into the room and starts demanding? Wow!

Here is where I get very mixed messages on this forum. Setting boundaries vs treating my W as a guest are very different things

Well, you cannot treat a wayward W like a guest! You might be able to treat her like someone who is a boarder. There is a gigantic difference in guest & boarder.

In hindsight, I could set the boundary of me not letting her kick me out of my own living room without suggesting anything to her?

That's fine not to let her kick you out of your own living room, but don't call it a boundary. A boundary is not suggesting something!

Its in my nature to try to fix problems. I sometimes forget that she does not want me to help her. Dont worry, though, she yelled at me quite a bit tonight over that suggestion.

Look, you clearly don't understand how boundaries work. Why would you draw a line about her demanding you get out of the living room....only to listen at her yelling at you? IMHO, the yelling was as bad of an offense as kicking you out of the living room.

So, what did you finally do? Let me guess, you left the living room after she yelled enough.

P.S. It does not matter if is your nature to fix problems, stop trying to fix her problems.