Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

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Rose888:

Your wisdom and great attitude is so welcome.

Hindsight being 20/20 its easy to come up with solutions for no shows. Maybe I'll be more resourceful as time goes on. In that particular incident I felt bad that my son's were "ditched" so being there for them was more important. My friend who was supposed to come over is not a great influence i.e. smokes, drinks like a fish, swears like a sailor, etc, etc. A great heart but not a fab example. And besides I get to misbehave a little when I'm with him. I'd prefer my sons not hear me laughing at dirty jokes, etc.

Yes, family therapy has happened. a few sessions with W, a few with the entire family, a few with just the boys and I. W is not interested in going any more. She's stated it's ok for a mediator, she does not want any relationship "help". The Dr was very clear that until we deal with her "fear" of me etc. We are not going to have a good relationship.

After these numerous posts - I certainly get the better sense of the punishment aspect. On the other hand. If that was not in place, you can bet, there would be more requests, etc.