Contact from the dark side.

[Lifes Twists]

Irish,

I don't post often,just when I feel strongly about something. Like you, I have daughters, three in fact.The best piece of advice I can give you at this point is that you don't need to share with them updates on every conversation or interaction you have with ex. They are old enough at this point to recognize that mom is not the mom they knew and loved. She may never again be that person. Believe me you don't have to reinforce this. My oldest is 22 now and this started when she was 17. Just the other day, over dinner, she told that mom is not the mom she grew up with. She said she is still trying to get used to this new person. It would have done no good if I had said anything to reinforce this.

Your ex may never be healthy enough to be a full time mom. You will probably always be the person they turn to in crisis. You may feel that you are protecting them by sharing these interactions. Ask your self what you are protecting them from that they aren't already aware of.