Keeping busy has been one of the easiest ways to keep xW out of my head, but at the same time, I try to not shut it out completely. When she pops up, I try to analyze why. Is it a me thing or a her thing? If it is a me thing, I see if it is something I need to work on. If it is a her thing, I pretty much toss it in the garbage, as there is nothing I can/want to do about it.
I can honestly say, I have dropped the rope.
My classes are going well, I am GALing like crazy, I have a dinner companions, and now I guess a GF, if we have to label it (before I get yelled at by some oldbies, I have made explicitly clear my desire to not be in a long term relationship, and it is more physical than anything). When I started getting noticed by the ladies again, it was the best feeling. I haven't even really had to 'go to them' they have been coming to me. It is a huge confidence builder (which in itself snowballs)
Met up with a friend from college who lives in TX now. He was in my state on some work (His HQ is here) It was great to catch up. The next day he messages me and tells me to send him my resume asap. He was apparently having lunch with a recruiter. Now I have leads on some GOOD paying jobs.
I really do hope your MR can work out, if you want it to. But I know you will be just fine if it doesn't.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
