I responded that way because she was demanding that I leave the room so she could sleep in our living room.

Here is where I get very mixed messages on this forum. Setting boundaries vs treating my W as a guest are very different things in this case. Treating her as a guest is what the DB coaches would recommend (and have). In hindsight, I could set the boundary of me not letting her kick me out of my own living room without suggesting anything to her?

Its in my nature to try to fix problems. I sometimes forget that she does not want me to help her. Dont worry, though, she yelled at me quite a bit tonight over that suggestion.


M 17 years
3 kids
EA start 2010
ILYBNILWY 1/2014
PA 1/2016
Bomb drop 2/2016
Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016
Living as roommates, EA continues