Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

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Rose888

Thanks for your post. I appreciate the amount of time you put into the response.

I'm not sure about the equal time thing. Our plan came from meeting/recommendations from our family therapist. Who met with all 5 of us. I'm guessing he knew what he was doing?

Yes, using your chart - it would seem that we are using item 3. The regular requests are not because of work, or taking care of elderly parents, or her illness, etc. Things I would call unavoidable. Our Sit is W asks for "switch" so she can go to conferences, vacations and visit the OM. I would call them recreational. Yes, this is subjective.

Yes, emotional immature people would punish someone if they refused to switch change child care for someone to go to a funeral.

So much of what I've read her on DB talks about don't be a doormat to your WAW/WW. I'm not sure how this situation fits. Twice this summer W did not show up because the OM was in town. Was I being a doormat? Should I have gone and dumped my S11 on her doorstep?

Why is being compensated for that situation punishing?