Not really sure if you and your W have big issues in regards to time with the kids. My W and I have been pretty reasonable in regards to S14. Haven't files a parenting plan, but we did agree to Sunday to Sunday 4:00 for the switch off. But it always turns out to be Friday when he gets off from school. And the ither parently will likely drop of his clothes from their place the next day.
We don't do the owed days. The agreement among ourselves was to just be flexible with each other. My BIL and W cousin came town to visit W and SIL at their place for a day. W asked if it was alright if he stayed with her that day, even it was my week. I had no issues with it at all.
My grandmother passed away and my W kept S14 for two of my days, so he wouldn't miss out on school. Last Wednesday was my birthday, so W was cool with him leaving her place to stay with me that day. Then said to just keep him the reat of the week. It was her week and she had him since the precious Thursday which was my week. S14 will end up staying with me up until Wednesday.
Thursday she will pick him up from school and keep him for the next week. I believe there is something that she wants to do with him Thursday, so I have no issue with her taking him a day early. Now W mentioned that she wanted to take him Tuesday to go to the movies. I actually had plans tovtake him to the same movie that day. Perhaps I will just invite her to tag along with us. Still thinking about it.
But the point is just be flexible with the children if possible. I have had S14 more than W has, but I couldn't even tell by how many days since I am not keeping score. Been fortunate that my WW has been willing to reasonable with S14 as I have been.
