I've not been following along on this thread but am picking up the general "how / why" questioning.

Over on the MLC forum there is a series of posts from AmyC who was here a long time ago.

It may be helpful if you are looking for perspective on the wayward side to give them a read. They were very helpful to me.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2253741#Post2253741

On BD
H52, W50
T27, M26
S21, D23
BD-9-Mar-16
D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good.
But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells