What do I want? Well at this point I'm not in a deep r, but....looking ahead...
Honesty, loyalty and kindness are so essential that they are deal breakers if absent. Of course I would not date a guy if I believed one of these things were missing so it'd be a question of extracting myself as soon as a missing element manifested. Crappy tippers, rude to the waiter, cutting people off in traffic, - gross. Bye bye...
RE fidelity - for ME, means loyalty and keeping your word -including sexual monogamy.
IF we agree to date exclusively, then that's the deal. If not, so be it. But don't lie.
I'm not looking for a big commitment b/c I just came out of one.
I am not bragging or confessing, but stating as a fact, that I did the heavy lifting in the marriage for the whole 35 years - and being married to someone in medicine made me think that was "temporarily" reasonable.
(Turns out it was permanent...) Bottom line is that my needs were so dovetailed with h's that they are not even mine, necessarily.
I'm not in the mood to do it all again even if the guy is great. (Not yet, I mean.)
Someday I will probably go "all in" again, but I don't feel like I have to right now. Good grief, let's hope not.
In a marriage, fidelity is mandatory for me. I'm not into polyamory but I understand some folks are. I just don't get the point about marriage if it's not exclusive. If there are no children and you want to keep "dating" others, why on earth pretend otherwise with a wedding ceremony and dishonest promise?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
