Gordie: MLC W with a BF...negotiating our D #12

[Gordie]

Thanks everyone for your support in this trying time. I made it another week. I am still alive!

25: self esteem breaking nightmare? Wow, you know I have not thought about what this has done to my self esteem. Wow. Generally speaking, I come across IRL as a smart, confident and quiet guy. But yeah, this makes me feel like dog poop.

Job: thank you for confirming my w is way out in left field. It takes a lot for you to say my d may be necessary...for me.

Roist: walk her down the aisle? OMG, that made me laugh. Working on step one re finalizing the d. I will journal later on where I am with the kids and the friend zone and the separation.

Andrew: you are awesome! It is definitely easier to deal with Princess or fairly land than Monster from the black lagoon. My L said the same thing but with less humor. Yes, it is in my best interest right now to be extra friendly and keep the Princess happy until the settlement is signed and d is final. L is actually concerned given her history she will flip flop again and not sign or sign and then try to pull out while it is pending approval before the court (could be a few months). I’m thinking of Cali and his multi year process. And yes, I’m not sure I got to fair but I did get to what I could swallow. I got what was most important to me re the kids and money.

Own it: yes, I didn’t want the d but taking the reigns to get it across the finish line has been good for me. I have learned from you and Cali and others that I can’t wait on her to get this done.

Cali: thank you man. I have no doubt if I knew you IRL that you along with several of th me other dudes here would be true friends. My one d buddy who has really helped me through this opened up to me this week about some of the wacky things he has experienced through his situation. He made a confession to me: it has been 8 years since his w abandoned him and his children to be with OM and they are still legally married because she continues to do what your w is doing in court.

Sotto: I would love for you to meet my w IRL so you can say that to her! Sadly, she has abandoned all her sane friends and replaced them with her “you go girl gang”

Butterfly: I thought that too!!! No idea and I didn’t ask. And yes, until the ink is dry and I am officially d trying really hard not to have any more R talks of any sort including the can we be friends one.

Andrew: I think I have seen every kids movie from the past 20 years and that did make me smile. You always make me smile. You come across as a very cheery dude, despite everything you have been dragged through. You give me hope.