Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

[bigybiz]

Sandi2:

Thanks so much for your response. The same issue we've had for years continues to plaque us. Avoidance. Every 6 or 8 weeks this blows up (along with other things). So it becomes the pursuer - distancer game. How do we stop it? This week a few important things came up that I believe I needed to inform her about. Her input is valuable and I don't want her to feel sidelined.

1) Sick Dog - multiple trips to the vet -
2) S11 ipod is acting up. I'm considering giving him a phone
3) S11 was involved in a bullying incident.

I wrote her a note " Need to discuss" "Dog,... No response.

So I'll keep moving forward. Dog is recovering, ipod still working - no switch, I talked to the school, no real action.

How does the game get stopped?

She expressed that she is feeling punished since she has to ask me to cover for her and that she reluctantly has to "give up a day" to get my help.

How do I ask her to discuss it and problem solve. Without R talk, without pursuing and putting an end to the madness.