By "you", I mean did she share these issues with her H about himself. Because I know that my W has some grievances with me that I just didn't have a clue about. So the fixing I am talking about is with myself and not with her. As for sharing vital information. My W talked to other men and friends about what was bothering her. But never shared with the one person who really needed that information.
And I was just having this discussion with some male and female friends. This happens a lot with the lack of sharing information. My W biggest issue was how she thought I would react. Now I could understand if I did things that would make her think I would react a certain way. But she couldn't give an example on any behavior from me that would make her think that way. Its as if she created all this out of some fantasy. Which I think may have just been an excuse for the A.
Communication is the biggest reason for the downfall of my MR. I actually bought the book a few months back and need to get around to reading it. But from what I learned from the discussion the other day is that women just want us to figure it out. And don't even know why they feel that way. But will not hesitate to give all that information to a man who is not their spouse who will use that information to give the W what she wants. Then she treats him like some God. But it goes over the WW head that he basically gave her what she actually told him.
