Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

[bigybiz]

Sandi2:

Thank you so much for stopping by my thread. I've so missed your insights. Please keep it up.

No misunderstanding. My guess is it only matters that she thinks I'm punishing her. I have 0 desire to punish her.

If we are ex business partners, if you want something from me, you need to give me something of identical value. For me access to my sons is reasonable exchange. W often says "I can't do Thursday, can I have the boys Wednesday" and I'll say no that's alright. I have a plan/routine and there is no need to disrupt it.

My mother just turned 84. Her b'day was on W's day. Instead of me spending days, trying to track her down by phone, text etc and getting ticked off as she does not reply. I simply dip into the pool of lieu days. My sister and nephews came to visit from Australia. We had two weeks of visitors, weekends away, day trips, etc. If I had not had the pool of days to draw from, my sons would have missed seeing their cousins who they see every 5 years.

I've never said to her, I can't take the boys when she has asked. I've cancelled personal, family and professional engagements to help. Yet, I'm in flexible.

No acknowledgement of my efforts. Just more blame.

Sandi2 and everyone else. - I'd love to solve this impasse. Let me know your thoughts.