Did you ever try to explain this to your H the way your telling us? I am sure my ow W felt the same way. But yet she chose to tell everyone except the one person who could help fix the issue.
Do you mean "you"? Because you can't fix her. That's one thing we men almost all do wrong in our marriages, we think we're just there to fix stuff. Women don't want us to "fix" them, they want us to listen and validate. The fact that you think you can fix her is probably why she never wants to share private thoughts and feelings with you. She talks to others to get the empathy she feels like she doesn't get from you.
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So yes I feel very guilty and Don't want to give up on the MR. But yet I am pissed, because she didn't share vital information with me.And I ask myself do I really want a spouse like this?
If you don't change your thinking on this then every relationship you have is doomed to repeat this pattern. Rather than get angry about it, ask yourself -why- she didn't want to share that information with you. What were you doing in the M that made her uncomfortable sharing that. Read Men are from Mars, Women from Venus. It's an older book but it really delves into the differences in how men and women think and how we can change and adapt to be better listeners.
