Awesome news Joe, congratulations! I agree with 25, you're not "officially" in piecing yet but these are some really great signs that you're on the doorstep. Very happy for you!
Originally Posted By: joejoe1
Second, this is the beginning of a new journey, my wife and I have a lot of work to do. I have a lot of issues to ensure I constantly deal with and don't regress.
You are exactly right. This is not the time to wipe your brow and say "wow I'm glad that's over" and go back to old habits (I know you won't, but you'd be surprised how many people do just that). A lot of the DB'ing principals aren't just for a marriage in trouble, they are for a healthy marriage as well. So stick with it!
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Third, I want to come back and give as much advice about what I did in my Sitch and what's going on in my Sitch, so I can be a testimony for others.
Awesome! Paying it forward is why a lot of us are still here after years
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AS, constantly gave me 2X4s on detaching and doing it with love, and I can't think him enough for that.
You are welcome, glad to hear I helped in some small way
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She told me she was really reckless this summer and she had to wake up. She told me she didn't know what had come over her the last three weeks, but she just started to feel her heart open up for me. And her feeling herself come back to herself. She slowly started coming out the place where she was at. One reason for that, was because of the changes she saw in me. The changes she saw start to help her see her way out. She said if I would of not changed no telling where she would be or at the this point our M.
It's a great sign that she's opening up to you like this, she's not really saying anything unexpected (it's typical WAS stuff) but the fact that she's sharing it with you shows a pretty major change of heart in her.
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She also told me she felt really dirty and spoiled, (I wondered if she was on this board or maybe another one, because of some of the stuff she has said).
Good, remember to validate at times like this. Do not try to tell her things like "oh no honey, it's fine, you're not like that at all" because that is the wrong thing to say. You don't want to downplay what she's going through. Just validate- "I hear you saying you felt dirty and spoiled, that sounds like a very difficult thing to go through, I'm sorry you are struggling but I'm happy that you're finally working through these feelings with me."
