For me, I felt as if life had slowly left me, but I was having to drag around my lifeless body......kind of like a zombie. It was the lack of feeling any positive emotions for my H. I had no motivation or energy left in our MR. I felt completely drained of any sexual desire. I felt no attraction, no chemistry, nothing drawing me toward him. I had lost all interest in doing things with him, going anywhere with him, etc. I stopped putting effort into showing any love language. I stopped spending time watching TV with him at night. We had not slept together in a long time, so we had no intimacy. My love tank had definitely been drained for a long time. I felt as if a void had consumed my entire being and I could not feel any happiness.
I often compare it to a flower that has been neglected of water and sunlight. You feel like you are dying a slow death. The "numbness" robs you of hope, so you see this being the state you'll be in for the rest of your life. Quite depressing!
So.......it can leave you vulnerable. Some guy says something that makes you feel really special, and it's very tempting to go back for more. When you are empty for a long time and suddenly have a twinge of feeling alive for a few minutes....you want to grab hold as if that was a lifesaver.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
