A few weeks ago my W announced she was done with our marriage, she loved me but wasn't in love with me. She later changed her stance to not loving me anymore and not wanting to be around me. We've been together since we were 16, we're now 34 and have two kids 9 &11.
I've done as she asked, I've found a house for me and the kids to share custody. I had to let her keep the house as it's a large nursery where she makes her living. She has been so cold and hateful I don't recognise her anymore. She has refused to sleep in the house so we both sofa or hotel surf. I announced yesterday I've found a home, she burst in to tears and hugged me, she was still crying when I left. Last night she stayed in a hotel and drank 2 bottles of wine. She looks destroyed but has been adamant we would never stand a chance of getting back together. We have hurt each other in the past in many ways, no infidelity as such, but she has had some flirting and struggles with setting boundaries with men. I have also been controlling and needy in the past. We have physically assaulted each other around 5 years ago, I went for counselling but my wife refused, she says this is a big part of why she now wants to leave. She accepts no responsibility for any issues in our marriage.
I have to move out because we no longer have a home, it is literally a business 13 hours a day, we have no privacy and she has worked herself in to the ground. I have been very concerned about her for the last two years but she has refused help while simultaneously asking for help, but she refused to consider reducing her workload.
Is she now having second thoughts or just grieving the loss of our long relationship?
