I read up on going dark and setting and enforcing boundaries.
I do GAL and always have through group sports...I race bicycles and do group training rides 3 days a week. Two of these are on weeknights. After the rides, I work on my car or projects outside until I come in for bed. The other is Saturday morning. I am out until 11 am or so. I stopped racing after my W declared she wanted a divorce so I could spend more time with our kids.
M 17 years 3 kids EA start 2010 ILYBNILWY 1/2014 PA 1/2016 Bomb drop 2/2016 Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016 Living as roommates, EA continues