Sounds like it's a start. And what you are doing (listening and taking in her input) is the right path, obviously. It's helping.
I think you said you were in MI in the military, right? Okay so your w is giving you "intel"
and you need to keep on gathering it, taking it in and making the changes she's hoping for, when you agree with them.
(What you wrote here about her feelings sound pretty valid to me).
I have 5 brothers. My sisters and I had to give them a LOT of feedback about not acting as if they were in a locker room when they were on a date or married.
As for the intimacy, can you learn to be comfortable discussing it? You are not a mind reader, and neither is she, so words are a really good thing to use. Sounds obvious but a ton of couples have trouble with it.
Also are either of you in IC? I don't recall if you said so. I highly recommend it for you, and don't freak if she says she does not want to go yet. Just do it for you. Plus if she sees you going to IC and making changes, (& you being more at peace internally)
she'll lower her resistance to change for herself.
She will want what you are gaining.
Hang in there, this is a start!
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