I'm beginning to tire of repeating myself, I have a different opinion to most on this board but will stick to my principles and quite possibly won't get to a successful conclusion.
Mark - Do you have a list of goals?
You say things like "this is my bonudary" and thats fine. But Im curious if keeping that/those as boundaries are helping you to achieve your goals.
Which is more important to you - to hold a boundary or to meet your goals?