1. I'm allowing myself to be used and manipulated to serve her needs 2. I'm allowing her to eat a truckload of cake 3. She's figured out which buttons to push to silence me. All her " if you, I will" bulls£€t 4. I would never allow anyone else to manipulate me like this so why let her 5. Nothing she said or says it truthful, it just suits the moment. 6. Time to let go and press on in life. I've wasted so much time and energy and paid too high a price to keep being a door mat and a welfare office 7. In due time she will either come to realize what she stands to lose or won't. Either way life must go on. I will not keep it on hold for her
And 8, I have flaws like everyone else. I recognize them. They don't define me. I don't deserve treatment like she keeps dishing. There is more to the menu than s^¥t sandwiches. I want a steak....
Good! Now focus on this list, instead of worrying if your W is talking script or bipolar.
LBH's wonder if it's hormonal, mental depression, or whatever. They are trying to figure out what happened to the woman they M. Surely, there is a solid, logical reason that has caused her to start acting like a freakin alien. Right? Truth is that many WW's do have these issues that add to their complexity. Unless the court gives you the authority to forcibly take her to a doctor, what can you do about what ails her? I don't mean to sound cold, b\c I suffered with hormonal imbalance and depression, but it did not "cause" my waywardness. Yes, I felt dead inside (even said so), and didn't feel I could recover (but did), and I had such a desperation to escape from my reality and find a source of happiness.
In other words, all waywards have inner issues. For some, it may require help by treating her physical or mental problems with medication or therapy. For others, it may take spiritual guidance to help them see the truth and do the right thing. Although waywards have very similar traits, they are still individuals and come from various backgrounds. I would not go so far as to say every WW is depressed and or hormonal. There are some, apparently, that either lose their moral compass....or never had one. I could go on & on about this, but my point is that you need to focus on you the things you can change. You can't fix what's inside her. You can influence, by working on those things in your list.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
