You are so emotionally enmeshed with your W and kids that it is difficult for you to go out and do something without them. Not many will argue that you shouldn't devote every second with your kids.......except me....I will. You first have to save yourself before you can save your family. You are using the kids as your excuse to stay home. Better to GAL and leave them home a few nights with their mom now......in hopes it will be temporary, rather than a permanent arrangement.
Taking long trips are not required to cause your W to miss you. It can have the same results if you leave her and go out by yourself at night GAL. And BTW, don't give her details of your GAL of what, where, who, etc. Keep it a bit mysterious. It can work to your advantage in saving your M. It won't happen right away, so you have to stick with it.
Remember, the real point of GAL is for your own sake. Do you have any male buddies that are not related to your W? If not, you need to meet and make more friends. At least, have one pal.
What do you like to do to have fun? Not projects......just fun that is not attached to your family? How long has it been since you did something to blow off steam and forget about your problems? You need to get away for a few hours and have a good time. Why? B\c of the results it will have on you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
