Limerence and My Situation 5

[Rose888]

So, you are saying I'm lying about reading your posts? Nice.

Can you answer my question about what you are trying to show wih the list of people who have reconciled?

You don't have to initiate the contact to pursue during the contact. For example. She contacted you about Christmas but your words about wanting to all wake up together is pursuing. I think you are so focused on who initiates that you aren't as aware of how often you pursue once she contacts you.

How do you define detachment? I don't consider living in separate houses or not spending time together part of detachment.

Detachment is being responsible for your own emotions and not taking responsibility for other people's emotions. Signs that someone isn't detached are things like mind reading, analyzing what a specific interaction means, dwelling on the spouse and what they are thinking or doing or how they feel about the OP, etc.