I don't fit every example in the book. But I did find myself falling into the example of not asking for what I really want. I don't things for my W with expectations. But lately I have found myself bitter that my W is probably spreading her legs for men who haven't done 5 percent of what I have. I did those things with no expectations. But now I am wondering if I was a damn fool for doing so. W left this MR, because apparently I wasn't doing enough. But yet lays up with men who won't even give her a lift home. So yes I do feel foolish and used.
Which is why my W still called me a few weeks ago asking for a ride. And I came to the rescue with no expectations. Which folks on this forum told me that I shouldn't have done that for her. This whole experience is making me want to go to a version of myself that would have been moved on from this nonsense. My W probably would have been returned to that version of me, because that person simply didn't give a damn.
At the moment, I just need to reevaluate a lot of things with myself. And most important what I will no longer entertain. Also it occurs to me that we're plab B if the WS returns. They typically have their revelations when things go to hell for them. They come back apologizing, but that is only due to their plans falling apart. If I am confused about this please let me know.
