Yah, I had thought about this. Just something simple along the lines of: "S17, I know you told me you had talked to OM at homecoming, but I wanted you to know that... he and I are no longer friends" OR "...he is no longer a friend of this family" OR "...he and I have had a falling out"... AND "...and he is someone I'd really rather you not be talking to." Can also tell him "You don't have to be rude or obnoxious, but I'd rather you keep clear of him. I have no arguments with his son, however"
That sounds like a great approach!
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I just really feel like that dude and all reminders of him need to be GONE from our lives right now, and that is two great big ones right in my wife's face within a two week span.
That's not at all unreasonable given what you've been through, and if she is on board with recon then surely she would agree.
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...but I believe we should just level with our kids about pretty much the whole ball of wax. They are both practically adults, now, and should be able to understand such things.
Well they will find out sooner or later. My personal take is it's better to tell them yourselves then leave them to try and guess and infer. And like you say, it could be cathartic for your W. You probably should wait until you know your W is 100% on board with recon though, because you don't want to tell your S's everything is better now if there's a chance she'll go AWOL again as that would just really confuse them.
