You have been given really good advice and my thoughts are the same as the others
If MLC is real it has to be in them -not us if its about their unresolved childhood..that is deep and long ago- and we have no control over what happened to them or their lack of willingness to look at/fix themselves and there is nothing . we can do to make them happy or fix this
I think you know that-
If you need space and time , take it If you can't see him right now..trust that do what you can to allow your pain and despair,,feel it ..release it -cry-journel work on healing you- sometimes that is all we can do and if the R with your H is meant to continue you can pick it up later with whatever strategy empowers you. .If you are sick and can't be there for him anymore..allow it-trust it your instincts are talking to you
figure out what is best for you right now and follow that-
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