Wife Wants to Leave Marriage 7

[Lovelyp]

Ginger,

Apparently I am a MNG based in the fact that I am willing to put my W ahead of my own needs. Found $100 bill a few months back. My first thought was what can W and I do with this money. It never occurred to me for a second to spend all that money on myself. That is the type of thing that makes me a MNG.

I do not see how this makes you a MNG.
I feel that the fact that you think of what wife and you do with the money is not putting your W's needs before yours. I feel disturbed when you even think its sacrifice that you spend it together with wife. There is no sacrifice there because you are enjoying it too. I think the problem comes when you consider normal things as favours to wife when in actual fact these are normal things. As a married couple it is normal to do things together and put the needs of your other before yours. Generally speaking this is a concept not understaood by majority of H and it frustrates the wife.

My moral compass is about taking care of others needs first and foremost. I need to seriously readjust my morals a bit to focus more on myself ahead of others.

I think that you need to sit and look at your character flows and try to read more on this subject. I feel that there is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. I feel that sometimes we tend to paint ourselves positively too much. Looking at what your partner complained about as your flaws , what friends and family say will give us a more accurate picture of what we do. That way you get a more objective look at what you do right and what you need to work on.